Mrs. Kelly Boyer Sagert: Emmy Nominated Script Writer - Lorain, OH.
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Connect the (invisible) Dots [P. 1] – Theoretical Dots:
Consider the game, ‘Connect the Dots’ as a metaphor to finding purpose in one’s life. If someone went about things similarly to how the game operates, even before the it begins, a feeling of contentedness will be experienced from the acknowledged inevitability of things panning out in the end. It’s a simple cause and effect formula. There is a promised award to the player if the rules are followed, but this technique triggers passive behavior in that it risks nothing. Now, there’s nothing wrong with structure, organization and doing things that come easy. Success (on a rare occasion) can be achieved through this method, but if you never take an evaluated risk on the pursuit of purpose, a huge limitation will be placed upon your greater potential of accomplishment.
Most of us are familiar with the elementary game, ‘Connect the Dots’, otherwise known as, Dot-to-Dot which was invented by graphic designer, David Kalvitis in 2000. The visual puzzle can be found in every coloring book or kids restaurant placemat at a Denny’s and the goal of them all is simple; bring forth an image not yet present by connecting numerical dots with straight lines. Now, the game seemingly gets tedious and after the kid discovers the dots form a T-rex and moves on to other things, but what’s unknown to the kid is that they’re still playing the game as they age.
As we mature and move towards more complex systems which allows for the potential of achieving valuable entities, like going through a traditional four year term within a university to obtain a bachelor degree, the execution of these systems are no different than the kids game mentioned above. It’s the same ’cause and effect’ formula. The complex system is no different than the rules given to the child holding a crayon and the valuable entity is the adult version of the image brought forth from a series of connected lines. In a nurture perspective, we’re trained from youth to think in this behavior. We think, “If I complete the set of guidelines before me, I will be able to receive this thing I want,” and so we act accordingly. Connect the Dots plays this system out perfectly, grown-ups play the game unaware of their participation.
The reason for this ignorance is due to the rules the game evolving as we grow older. We don’t know we are still playing because the image sought after becomes a vague understanding of an idea and the lines used as connecting points to obtain an image becomes a process of convoluted laws. As well the dots mapping out the venture which allows the lines to form an image turn invisible. An invisible dot, in my perspective is that single, consequential, random moment of clarity which gives you a surreal and yet clear understanding of what you are supposed to do in this world. And if one instinctively follows a trail of them with a sense of instinctive undoubtful curiosity, a true fulfilment can be found.
We all, at a different points in our life, become aimlessness wanderers of the dark as we age. However, if one would fully embrace the weariness of life and act on connection of invisible dots for active pursuit of purpose, the fear we burden ourselves with can no longer be a hindrance of ambition. Instead, it will become a never ending source of fuel towards the image we all are searching for with little straight lines.
Now, go read Part 2. for a real life example of connecting the (invisible) dots!